I'm 15 weeks..I feel like I have been pregnant for 15 months! I'm tired and never get to sleep , the baby never wants to nap ! I'm sick of men they are all the same ! This morning someone yapped about not having any dress socks clean for work, if he had of said that on Saturday morning they would have all been washed then and ready for today !
Of course when I say this he said well I did say on Thursday or Friday I was getting low.....BS ! Why do men tell you they said something before when really they didn't and then get mad at you for not hearing them?
All men do this, my friend's husband is forever telling things to other people then getting mad at her for not knowing something and when she says you never told me that he will get mad and swear up and down he did .
I have seen so many guys do this it drives me crazy, they tell their friends and people at work stuff and don't tell you , but you are the one that gets yelled at for not remembering the thing they never told you !
I have been thinking maybe I won't blog anymore ...what's the point? I started because I'm here alone and don't have anyone to talk to. The comments were like having someone to talk to me if only for a moment . Lately though I have noticed nobody ever does even just to say hi or whatever.
I'm stressed all the time with the hubby working so many hours and then going to school too . He's never home well no...he's here long enough to snore and grind his teeth all night so I don't get any sleep then either and to yap at me he needs whatever then it's off he goes! I worry that his crappy job will lay people off and he will be one of them . There is nowhere else to find a job around here !
I have a 10,000 dollar baby coming we will need to pay for ! It's not like at home where you go have your baby and the only thing you leave the hospital with is your new baby...not your new baby and a great big bill for getting it out !
I'm not one of those people that brags and says how great their country is, but let me tell you having free health care your whole life then coming here to this is quite a shock ! I can't believe that the people here have let the government get away with making people go broke and homeless because of health care when it's a right that all humans should have just because, instead of something you only get if you pay for like you are buying a car or TV !
Oops there now I just yapped about something real so now nobody will talk to me today either. I need to learn to just be lighthearted and never talk about anything serious or anything, because people freak out when you do I guess.
Well I gotta go throw dark dress clothes in the dryer and chase the baby and maybe eat today if I'm lucky !
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It's it really going to be THAT much money?? that's so insane!
When I was pregnant with Kaia, we were in the process of moving to Ohio. My hubby got a job transfer there. I could have had the baby in the U.S. as we were insured, but the co-pays for everything shocked the you know what outta me! I decided to have the baby in Canada because why pay for it when you can get it for free! Plus, I wanted the baby to have Canadian citizenship. So we delayed moving until she was a month or so old. Good thing, because the day after she was born was when we found out she had Down syndrome and she had tests and specialist appointments that I don't even want to begin to imagine how much it would have cost for that!
I hope you get a chance to sleep at some point. I totally know how you're feeling. None of my kids were big nappers so I couldn't sleep when they did...except at night. But for some reason I had a hard time sleeping at night no matter how tired I was.
Well it was around 8500 for Brody for everything. I just find it's nuts coming from home and having three babies and never getting a bill for anything , to this and they charge you for everything !
We have insurance through his work , but it's crappy and we still paid about half of that .
Oh and that is normal delivery with nothing for pain. Sections are way more !
Just one more reason to keep my legs closed! :)
Sorry to hear bout your frustrations. I haven't had to deal with insurance outside the military. I am sure I will get a healthy dose once I get out!
Hey Jenn. Sorry you're having a bad day. My husband does crap like that all the time too and it drives me crazy too. Keep blogging, you're good at it, and I think a lot of people like reading it and can relate to what you write about. Thinking about spending that much on hospital bills is enough to stress anyone out. The healthcare system has turned to crap in the US. Lack of insurance is the biggest reason I haven't had a baby yet. I can't even go to the doctor for a check-up now without having to spend $150. I could probably get on Medicaid, but I don't want to be treated like a second class citizen. Yes, that really is how people are treated around here if they accept any kind of government assistance. Hopefully things will get better in the US soon. I'm going to log on to yahoo messenger if you wanna chat, hopefully it won't kick me off, sometimes yahoo messenger doesn't like me :-). I hope Brody takes a nap and you get some rest too!
You sound how I felt with my last pregnancy. You gotta get out, girl! Find some groups, anyone, to get you out of the house. Or find a place where you can help other people. When we help others, it helps us to not dwell so much on the dissatisfaction in our own lives. I know if definitely helped me!
We were fortunate enough that my husbands insurance covers everything 100%, and we only have the occasional co-pay. But for 10 years when I was a single parent I had nothing. That was scary!
Don't think people don't care- we do! Sometimes all I have time for is a quick hello, just to let you know I am still here!
We are still paying off Izzy's hospital bills and my gallbladder surgery bills. Health care sucks in the US.
you sound exhausted! I hope that you can rest today. I'm sorry that you and hubby didn't have a great start to your day. It just makes it so hard...when misunderstandings occur! Hang in there...things will get better! and people are still having babies in the US and it will work out for you too! I promise!
i do agree with the comment above to join a mom's group or group of some type so that you can feel supported and to be able to talk to other moms in real life and know that you are not alone. you are doing a big job raising a lil one and growing a baby. i'll be praying for you!
Don't get me started on Men!! Health insurance sucks here.With my husbands job we have to pay for it our self. It's like making a car payment.When my son had his Appendix out. we have to pay 17,000 of the bill. Ugh!
We pay almost 500 a month for the crap we have from his work.
I have pretty crappy insurance also and when I had my son the bills were like $17000 because he had to stay in the hospital for a week after he was born. Luckily we only had to pay $2000 of that. What really sucks is how much health care costs period.
Ben washes his own clothes or he'd be going to work naked. lol.
I know we are still paying on my gallbladder surgery from June and im pretty sure we are still paying on Abbies birth. sucky
I agree with Andrea, you do sound exhausted. Although pregnancy is an amazing time in your life, it's also very emotionally draining. Take care of yourself and get some rest.
Maybe go out for a nice dinner with your husband. It sucks about the medical bills. I live in Canada and am happy that I don't have to pay for my medical bills and get 1 year maternity leave.
Don't worry about posting about personal stuff. If it makes you feel better, keep doing it.
Hey girl, I totally get it. As you know I'll be 11 weeks along in my pregnancy on Thursday and it can be really tough. Also, I totally understand the issues with hubby. I think most wives can empathize. The insurance problems suck, but everything will be ok. I'm always around to talk to or message or even tweet. We're so close in our pregnancies that we'll totally be able to relate.
My husband is Canadian, he is still mostly shocked and bewildered at the costs of health care.
Hope things get better soon.
When I was in the process of giving birth to my second child, the Dr. asked, "Do you want to help deliver the baby?" I answered, "Do I get a discount?" he answered, "No?" I then replied, "Then no thank you, I do not want to help." Thank goodness for insurance. It was only about 2000 for us to have our baby. But our Dr.s office had a great payment plan.
And yes, why the heck do men do that? They all do it. On thing that drives me absolutly insaine is when my husband will come home from work, not say anything, and just go about doing what he wants to do outside or in the garage. UHM......NO!! Or he will come inside and say Hi, then just disappear!! What if I did that? He wouldn't even notice because he just disapears and then nobody would be watching the kids. I hate how he has all theses freedoms and I don't. When do I get a break with some adult conversation? NEVER!!! AHHHHHHHH!!!!
Can you tell I have some pent up aggrivation? :) I am with ya on men being dumb, and it's super hard when they are always working and never around. I think that is the worst thing ever. You expect them to be home for "backup" and they are not home. I totally understand where you are coming from. I am sorry, and I hope you are having a better day now. Big (((((HUGS))))))
Health care costs are absolutely ridiculous!!
Men should do their own laundry!
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